For years, I, like many others, chase the idea of work-life balance. The belief is that if I can just organize my time better—schedule my day perfectly—I’ll somehow feel less stretched. But no matter how much I tweak my schedule, balance remains elusive. I’m either too focused on work or distracted by everything else.
For many of my clients, this pursuit creates more stress than relief. Men struggle to carve out time with their families, only to have work demands pull them back in. Women feel the weight of expectations—to be the superwoman who does it all. The problem isn’t time management. It’s the mindset that work and life should be neatly divided.
At some point, I realize that instead of striving for balance, I need to focus on alignment—ensuring that how I spend my time reflects what I truly value. That’s when things start to make sense
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I value helping people and organizations figure out their next steps, whether it’s in leadership, team dynamics, career shifts, or personal growth. For me, success isn’t about clocking out at 5 p.m. or collecting titles. It’s about making sure my work serves that deeper purpose while still creating space for what brings me joy—spending time with Sheila, staying active, and pursuing my appreciation and participation in the arts.
Many times, this means working until 9 p.m. or using a Saturday to catch up on projects I couldn’t finish during the week. Other times, it means knocking off at 1 p.m. to play pickle ball or taking an impromptu trip to see family. I don’t measure my days by hours worked—I measure them by whether I’m doing what matters most to me.
But that’s just my approach. I know plenty of people who have no interest in climbing the ladder, and I respect that. They go to work, do their job well, and head home to be fully present with their families. They aren’t chasing promotions or external recognition. They’re living in alignment with what they care about most. And no one should feel guilty for that.
The challenge isn’t achieving balance—it’s defining success on your own terms. Life gets easier when you stop chasing someone else’s version of success and start asking: What do I actually want?
So, here’s my challenge to you: What do you value most? Maybe it’s family time, a creative pursuit, or making an impact through your work. How well do your daily choices reflect those values?
Instead of trying to balance everything, what if you focused on aligning your actions with what truly matters? That shift has made all the difference for me. I think it could for you, too.
What’s next for you? I’d love to hear how you align your life to your values.
